Life isn’t always balanced and simple to navigate. There are times when people wrong us, hurt us or put us down in some way or another and we are unable to retort or retaliate. Alternatively there are also times when we perceive slights and injustices and hold on to the anger associated with them. Last but not least, there could be instances where the parties involved have apologized and cleared the air but we are unable to let go of what they might have done wrong.
Regardless of the situation or cause, if you have negative feelings sitting within that spring from a place of old anger, you’re likely dealing with resentment!
What’s The Problem?
Though you might think that harboring a little resentment here and there, you’d be surprised at how toxic this can actually be to you personally. Where the original anger that bore the resentment might be forgotten, the resentment its self sits within us affecting our behaviors, moods and reactions.
There are times when we might even be unfair or hurtful to those around us without reason because of certain resentments that we may associate them with. In this way, too much resentment might serve to isolate us.
Resentment and harboring the same is also heavy on energy. Constantly being resentful towards people or situations does us no favors. We feel demotivated, discouraged and overwhelmed at times. Resentments also cloud our perception of reality making things seem worse than they might really be.
You can see how all this can prove to be problematic. This begs the question; what does one do exactly? How does one work with their resentment?
Working with Resentment
This particular sub heading is a blog on its own to be honest. Addressing your own resentment is extremely important and can be done in a number of ways. Here are some of them!
Acceptance
The first step to working with resentment or about any other personal point of contention is to recognize and accept the existence of the problem. From a place of acceptance you can proceed to work with about any problem you might be facing. Recognition is always the first step
Cognitive Restructuring
Certain forms of therapy like CBT are extremely effective when it comes to recalibrating old and unhealthy emotional responses. The idea is to set in place more positive and productive responses to various situations. This often leads people to look at their resentments critically and challenge what they once thought were valid ways to respond.
Radical Acceptance
Radical acceptance is not about accepting a problem within you simply. It is about accepting situations and circumstances for what they are no questions ask. What works here is that this allows you to focus on solutions and ways to work around things as opposed to waiting in stagnation and resentment.
Hypnosis
Oftentimes when talk therapy and other forms of therapy fail to make the mark, many practitioners recommend that their clients try out hypnosis. Hypnosis is often used to treat depression and emptiness, PTSD, rage and other such problems.
What sets hypnosis apart from other forms of therapy is that it addresses deep parts of our psyche that are often impossible or difficult to access consciously.
The reason this works so well when working with resentment is that the seeds of resentment are often old and unresolved conflicts, sometimes from before a time that we were equipped to hold our own!
Winding Down
Though many of us might feel that we are stuck being the people we are and with the internal hiccups and flaws we come with, this is not true. With the right kind of work, care and treatment methodology, as human beings, we can always strive to feel and be better!
For those of you looking to work with your resentments through hypnosis we might be able to help. Hypnotist Rekha has a Masters in psychological development and is extensively qualified and experienced in the field of hypnosis. If you need support, reach out! We’d be happy to help!
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