A person’s self-esteem influences how you perceive and navigate the world around you. Having a healthy and realistic self esteem means you are not weighed down by needless anxiety. It also means you make better choices—those not governed by fear and self doubt.
The problem is that many of us go through things in life that result in our personal self esteem taking a bit of a beating.
If you feel that your self esteem has taken one hit too many and is not quite where you would like it to be, you might need to work on healing the same. The question is, are there any tangible ways for one to boost or repair damaged self esteem? Yes, there are strategies to enhance damaged self-esteem.
Connect with your Competence Mindfully
Low self-esteem, among other things, makes us feel unwanted, undeserving. This is rarely if ever truly the case. Slow down and reconnect with your competence.
Think about your skills. Think about your talents. Think about the things you are good at among others.
Has anyone complimented you because of something relating to who you are or something you did? What was it? Mindfully looking inwards and connecting with your inner potentials and gifts and accepting that you possess them is a great first step to mending that self-esteem.
Quit the Comparisons
The more we compare ourselves to others, the harder it is to get a handle on and connect with the areas in which we shine. Everyone is different and we all grow, evolve and progress at different paces. Further, none of this development is linear.
Stop comparing yourself to others; note your progress. Keep the competition internal and that self esteem will heal.
Know When There is enough on Your Plate
We sometimes sabotage ourselves by biting off more than we can chew. If you’re struggling to rebuild your self-esteem, the last thing you need is do partake in something that will do it more damage.
Taking on tasks that are beyond your abilities or taking on too much means raising the risk of messing up or not finishing. As opposed to setting yourself up for failure, take on things you are certain you can see through.
There is always a time and place to push and challenge yourself. But know when to call it quits and play it safe. That way, you can revel in a job well done when you complete or see through the needful and add more points to that healing self-esteem of yours!
Be Kind to Yourself
Negative messages about yourself from partners, parents and authority figures over a period are what evolve into negative internal self talk. Think about how you speak to yourself. Are the words you use harsh? Are you often self-critical? Do you put yourself down a lot?
If the answers to these and other such questions are yes, you might want to review how you are with yourself.
Be more forgiving. Don’t bash yourself if things go wrong. Give yourself the positive support you need to get back up and have another crack at things. The world may break down that self-esteem but by extending yourself the kindness, acceptance and appreciation, you help your self-esteem become more robust.
Get the Help You Need
There are ways in which you can seek help and support to further your efforts and rebuild the healthy self-esteem you may have lost. Don’t shy away from support if you need it. Look around and get exactly the kind of help you feel would benefit you—there is no shame in this.
Hypnosis as a Means
Among the many forms of professional support (counseling and therapy included), hypnosis is one which is often effective when doing deep work to repair and boost self-esteem. If you’re located in Rochester NY or any other part of the world, avail our services via online Skype sessions. We want to work on your self-esteem with hypnosis, we’re always there to help!
Sources
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-integrationist/201308/building-healthy-self-esteem
https://exploringyourmind.com/the-beautiful-task-of-repairing-broken-self-love/
https://psychcentral.com/blog/6-tips-to-improve-your-self-esteem/
https://psychcentral.com/blog/signs-of-low-self-esteem/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/me-we/201312/10-sources-low-self-esteem
https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/self-esteem
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