In the world of human emotions, jealousy is one of the most complex emotions. Being a combination of anger, sadness, suspiciousness and envy, jealousy is as complicated as it gets.
Jealousy, in its excessive, can be quite dangerous. The emotion has the power to stir murderous tendencies in people.
Let’s delve a bit deeper into the emotion and learn more about why it occurs:
Some Reasons why You Might Get Jealous
Although used interchangeably with envy, jealousy is associated with fear of losing someone or something you value. Let’s delve a bit deeper into the emotion and learn more about why it occurs:
Lack of Confidence in Oneself
Jealousy stems from feelings of inadequacy. When you believe that you won’t be able to achieve what the other person has achieved, you are quite likely to have feelings of jealousy towards them.
Poor Self-Esteem
Again, having a poor sense of self-image can really harm your abilities and potential. Poor self-esteem makes you think about good qualities in others and bad qualities in yourself.
This thought pattern is counterproductive and leads to a vicious cycle of jealousy.
Fear of Being Replaced
This one is especially relevant in relationships. The first-born child might feel threatened by the newborn sibling as she might be replaced as the center of all attention.
A wife might feel threatened by her husband’s friendship with his colleague at work.
The fear of being replaced makes the person feel that they are losing control.
Sense of Insecurity
A sense of insecurity about oneself and one’s abilities can also make a person feel jealous. Whether it is in a relationship or at work, insecurity nurtures jealousy.
What to Do About It
Here are some ways you can deal better with jealousy:
Be Objective
Most of the times, your jealous feelings are quite irrational. You might feel threatened by your husband’s friend, but these feelings might be unfounded.
Accept Uncertainty
A major part of growing as a person is embracing the uncertain. You need to understand that you cannot control everything and eventually, you need to let go.
Develop Self-Confidence
Building confidence in your abilities will keep you away from jealousy. A more confident you will be a more mature you. It will help you get rid of your insecurities.
When You Need Help
Here are some signs that your jealousy has become problematic and you need help:
- Your jealousy is interfering with your daily functioning.
- It is hurting someone.
- It is controlling you.
If you need help dealing with jealousy, Rekha Shrivastava can help. From helping you build self-confidence to overcoming feelings of jealousy, she can use the power of hypnosis to make a significant difference in your life. Learn more about her services.
Sources
https://www.livestrong.com/article/191699-how-to-beat-jealousy-in-a-relationship/
https://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/emotionalhealth/Pages/Overcomingjealousy.aspx
Very informative article!