Have you always wondered how all your friends find it so easy to talk about their feelings and you don’t? Have you always felt discomfort when asked to talk about how you’re feeling when you’d rather deal with them alone? Have you ever wondered why that is so—or did you rule it out as just being the way you are?

While there is nothing wrong with dealing with things on your own, sometimes, it can get a little too much and can actually harm you. As human beings, we are wired to have a sense of community and share our thoughts and feelings with others so we can be happier and heal better. There are in fact, several studies that support the idea that sharing your feelings can enhance your happiness levels and reduce stress.

If you have a hard time talking about your emotions with other people, here’s probably the reason why.

You Have Conflict Phobia And You Don’t Even Know It

Not being able to talk about your feelings could mean that you are afraid of conflicts and disagreements regarding your ideas. While growing up, you might have adopted the belief that people with good relationships shouldn’t ‘fight’ or ‘disagree’ on matters, so you learned to keep how you felt to yourself.

This phenomenon is also called the ‘ostrich phenomenon’—because your first instinct in the face of a coming conflict is to bury your head in the ground and avoid having to face it.

You Strive For Emotional Perfection

This is very common in individuals who always strive to achieve perfection—even when it comes to emotions. If you believe that as a good person, you shouldn’t feel jealous, depressed or even anxious; you might be a victim of emotional perfectionism.

This belief stems from our own insecurities and is more of a mask to hide our inner feelings of vulnerability. You feel that if people find out who you really are, they will reject you and not want to be with you anymore.

You Feel An Inner Need To Solve Problems

Another reason could be your problem-solving attitude. When you need to solve an issue, you feel that shutting off your own feelings in order to listen to the other person impartially is more important and constructive. You also feel that as a problem-solver, their feelings might help you solve it better and more efficiently.

While being considerate of others and striving to be impartial is great, it can also pose as a threat to your own mental health. Unresolved feelings and emotional baggage can actually manifest as physical and other mental problems.

To solve the issue, a great option is hypnosis. If you’re interested in looking into it, our expert hypnotist, Rekha Shrivastava specializes in helping people identify how they feel and express their emotions. For more information, get in touch with us today.

You can also book a free consultation at our office in Pittsford to learn more. For those who live outside of Rochester, Rekha is also available for Skype sessions.

Not ready to book an appointment? Learn how self-hypnosis can help you recover from PTSD and depression.