Have you noticed a pattern for your relationships fizzling out after a short while?  Did your last relationship leave a sour taste in your mouth? Our past experiences play a key role in determining how we feel about similar situations in the future. If you’re noticing a dwindling pattern in your relationships, here are a few reasons why it may be happening:

You Haven’t Established Boundaries

Relationships are all about mutual understanding and respect, and that requires both partners to be on the same page. You can’t expect your relationship to thrive if you and your partner haven’t set clear boundaries about what you’re both comfortable with.

For instance, if there’re certain activities you aren’t comfortable participating in that your partner enjoys, then this needs to be communicated. Not establishing boundaries results in resentment on both ends, and deteriorates the relationship.

You’ve Become Complacent

One mistake people tend to make once their relationship has passed a few months or a couple of years, is that they become complacent. The last thing you want to do is take your relationship for granted and stop putting in the effort it takes to make your partner feel valued.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve been together for 3 months or 30 years. Relationships require commitment and consistent effort from both ends.

If your former relationship seemed monotonous where either you or your partner weren’t actively trying to keep the spark alive, then this may have been why things fizzled out.

You Remain Too Guarded

Opening up can be difficult for people. It can be particularly tricky if you’ve been hurt before and don’t wish to be placed in that vulnerable spot again. However, you can’t continue to let your fear of expressing emotions override your ability to do so.

As challenging as it can be to place your trust in another individual and be emotionally vulnerable, you’ve got to keep trying for the sake of your relationship. Being too guarded is a natural instinct, but if you keep everything locked up inside then your partner may feel like you don’t trust or need them.

Ultimately, this can cost you your relationship as they won’t be to truly understand you and may get the impression that you don’t really want them to either.

You’re In a Codependent Relationship

Being in a codependent relationship tends to give the illusion that your partnership is healthy and built upon availability and support. A closer introspection, however, will tell you otherwise.

Having a codependent personality leads to an imbalance of roles and emotional support. You may find yourself constantly making efforts to fix your relationship, without them being appreciated or reciprocated. Similarly, you may find that your partner seems to be clinging on to you without giving you space.

Codependent relationships have little to no room for pursuing individual interests and desires, a lack of transparency, and plenty of disguised manipulation. The guilt and resentment caused by this leads to the relationship blowing up.

These aspects can take a toll on your relationship. If you find yourself identifying with these patterns, then our hypnosis-based treatments can help you assess your emotions and overcome your phobia of expressing your feelings to your partner.

Rekha Shrivastava, M.S., CH, CRC, CASAC, at Blossom Hypnosis helps individuals struggling with their relationships, through effective self esteem enhancement strategies using hypnosis.

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Sources:

https://www.meetmindful.com/5-reasons-relationships-keep-failing/

https://pizzabottle.co/54744-epic-fail/

https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/what-codependency-signs-codependent-relationship-ncna940666

https://www.everydayhealth.com/emotional-health/do-you-have-a-codependent-personality.aspx