Perhaps no other experience wrecks the emotional stability of humans as loss does. Losing a loved one is a tragedy many poets have sung songs of, many books contain details of, but none can help overcome the dreadful emptiness that it leaves behind. When the tragedy hits, people react in a plethora of different ways.
How People React to Death
Common, “normal” reactions to bereavement include shock, dryness in the mouth and on the skin, sleeplessness, fatigue, worry, angry outbursts, loss of appetite, and forgetfulness. There are other responses too, more abstract than ‘fatigue’ or ‘loss of appetite.’ These include pain near the cardiac region (the proverbial heartbreak), endless thoughts about the recently deceased, and a mounting confusion.
As a result of some combination of the above, people begin zoning out. Some might think (or wish, ardently) that they’re stuck in a dream, that the events unfolding around them are ‘unreal.’ This is called denial in academic circles. Many others distance themselves from their friends and family, feeding themselves on the idea that they’re not cared for enough. Many people think all meaning in their life is lost (especially those who lose a significant other).
The Most Common Reaction . . .
But the most common reaction of all is crying—a healthy, natural, and very important reaction to anything that hurts. It’s nature’s gift to us, a coping mechanism that allows us to vent in a normal, healthy way. Crying, in an absurdly ironic way, is an emotional wellness aide.
But there are people who’d rather not shed tears. Many with repressed feelings or many who appear completely calm and unaffected at funerals and graveyards.
These are the people most in need of help—because they foster an emptiness within that can easily lead to depression.
The Consequences
If you’ve lost someone close recently, chances are you’ve been affected badly—even if you don’t know it yet. But no matter if you’ve been crying a river every day or haven’t mourned a minute, you’ll recover. We’re built to deal with the ugly things in life and live to see another day. But some of us might need help reaching in that particular phase.
If you have been feeling empty and shattered inside following the loss of a loved one, you might feel a mélange of emotions; anger at not being dead likewise, shock at the unfairness of the natural event of things, guilt for not having done enough, and depression for all of the reasons stated above.
The consequences of these unhealthy emotions can lead to drug abuse, alcoholism, hasty and haggard decisions, general disinterestedness, and even suicidal tendencies if you were really close. Allowing grief to consume your innards without taking it to the task can be just as deadly for you—and this is really not a healthy way to express your anger.
Peep Deep into Yourself with Hypnotherapy
Cognitive behavioral therapies and hypnotherapy allow you to look deep within your own veins, taking in all that might be remiss. A professional hypnotherapist will guide you through the recovery process, one step at a time. You’ll first be encouraged to embrace the full extent of your emotions and thoughts, to vent and rant as the first natural reaction to loss.
This is followed by a surgical operation of whatever is causing depression: is it guilt? Regret? Loss of purpose? Financial woes? Locating the exact nature of the problem is the key to solving it.
Finally, through guidance and counseling, you’ll find yourself filling up that ugly empty void with positive motivation. You’ll get over any physical repercussions—such as weight loss or smoking—and will find yourself finally finding your way back.
Interested in booking such a session? You can get a free consultation at Blossom Hypnosis, or even talk to Rekha online through a Skype or Facetime session. Reach out today—don’t let grief decide the course of your life. You can also visit us at Blossom Hypnosis in Rochester, NY for a hypnosis session.
Links
https://griefwatch.com/normal-reactions-to-loss/?SID=5pk9pt29q6ra5pcf595rgaoc95
https://www.sciencealert.com/crying-might-make-you-feel-better-if-that-s-what-you-believe
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/stress-relief-why-crying_n_629309
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