Feeling is what differentiates humans from their beastly cousins out in the Savannah and the Amazon, but that doesn’t mean we don’t struggle with feeling either. Whether you call it anthropophobia (fear of having interpersonal relationships), doxophobia (fear of expressing yourself), the fear of feeling is real. It affects many of us—some more than others. And there are options for you, if you’re keen on getting help.

The Human Relation with Feeling

In many ways all human life begins with feeling. The child in its mother’s womb, through feeling, forms an intimate bond, which is painful when severed. As infants, we’ve all felt keenly: we’ve felt hunger and thirst, separation anxiety and joy, and so on.

Among the first things an infant learns (and learns on their own) is the mechanism of responding to these raw feelings: through crying, or laughing, or throwing a tantrum. We experience feelings and we learn to express them.

It’s when we learn the alphabet that problems begin to emerge. As humans mature and grow into the realm of language, they’re conditioned to believe that a certain feeling must be expressed in a certain manner: love must be extolled in sonnets, grief must be spilled in eulogies, anger must be released in bursts, and so on.

Growing up makes the expression of feeling a far more difficult task which is why so many of us choose to bottle them inside. Instead of tackling feeling, people find solace in burying them, and nothing good comes out of repressed sentiment.

Spilling

The problem with bottled feelings is that they never stay put. No matter how steadfast your hold on the cork that shuts the bottle and shuns the emotional angle of things, they will spill. And once that happens, the spilling will manifest itself in unhealthy outlets.

Repressed feelings resurface in the form of stress, anxiety, depression, migraines, eating disorders, and even blind rage. You’re angry and irritable, you’re always on the brink of a nervous breakdown, and you’re confused about the whole scenario.

It’s more than your psychological stability that takes the blow—your physical body suffers too. From eating disorders to finding respite in smoking, alcohol, or drugs: the only repercussion for you is loss.

The Way Out

Now we know this might sound clichéd and rather ridiculous, but you’ll have to ‘let it go.’ You require physical, psychological, and spiritual healing. Your ticket to consolation is through reconnection with your inner self.

Delving into the deep, dark dents of your subconscious will bring to surface self-revelations you didn’t even know were present. Hypnotherapy is designed to do just this. You’ll find things about yourself on the way, and you’ll know you’ve hit the right spot when you finally allow yourself to ‘let it go.’

It does sound impossible, right? After all, if it was that easy to let go, you would’ve done so years ago. What you need right now is a professional—someone who’s not a friend or a family member, someone that can extend help in the right manner and target the right spots.

Blossom Hypnosis can help you realign with your mind through hypnotherapy—all you need to do is book a free consultation with us, or talk to us over Skype. Your journey to identifying your emotions and getting over the dreaded feeling phobia by booking a hypnosis session with Rekha today.

Links

https://www.healthline.com/health/anthropophobia

http://common-phobias.com/Doxo/phobia.htm

https://www.jstor.org/stable/1129815

https://www.journals.elsevier.com/infant-behavior-and-development