Are you often told that you’re addicted to your relationship? That can’t be nice to hear, but if multiple people—especially close loved ones—have said the same thing to you, there could be some truth to it.

Let’s be real; it’s not easy to draw boundaries for yourself, especially when it comes to caring about your partner. However, it can become a little problematic when you’re too deeply involved in your relationship and your partner’s life. Every person needs a little room to breathe, and when there’s no room left, it can be suffocating for everyone involved, including you.

Here’s how you can avoid codependency in your future relationship.

Prioritize Yourself Where It Really Matters

Being in love and caring about someone more than you care about yourself is mostly beautiful, but somewhere along the way, we’ve messed up the meanings of love and care and glamorized suffering in the name of love.

You can’t love another person if you’re constantly unhappy, especially because of trying to make them happy. Don’t be selfish, but learn to prioritize yourself occasionally and put your needs first when you really need to. If you tend to be codependent in relationships, it’s time to reevaluate and regain your sense of self. Ask yourself what you really want, and we bet pain and sadness aren’t the first answers that come to mind.

Find Better Ways to Communicate with Your Partner

People who are often codependent on their partners have a habit of communicating in unhealthy, passive-aggressive ways. This is because all of the communication comes from a place of unresolved issues and resentment.

If you’ve decided to stop being codependent, it’s time to communicate with your partner about how you feel and how you hope to feel from now on. Learn to clearly assess your emotions, and then find healthier ways to communicate them. This may even mean being assertive at times while being cooperative and understanding on other occasions.

Set Healthy Boundaries and Let Your Partner Know These Exist

People who tend to fall into codependency patterns often start off as people pleasers. When you get into a relationship, set healthy boundaries immediately and be vocal about them.

Learn to say yes or no when you really need to and keep reinforcing your boundaries when needed.

If you still feel pretty lost and think you may just be wired to fall into codependency patterns over and over again, consider hypnosis in Rochester, NY. Hypnosis can help you learn how to break codependency habits to build healthier relationships.

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