Interdependency is health. Families are interdependent, romantic partners are interdependent and even friends and colleagues can be interdependent. The thing is, as social animals, human beings do depend on each other to get around and get by. There is nothing wrong with this. Co-dependency however is a whole other ballgame.

We’re going to start by telling you a little about co-dependency and then proceeding to move to how you could spot it if indeed you or someone close to you is co-dependent or in a co-dependent relationship.

Co-Dependency in a Nutshell

To make a long story short, co-dependence can be described as excessive or even over dependence or reliance on a person, partner or emotional figure. Oftentimes, there is a power dynamic that gets played on in such relationships. As a result you have people in less than ideal situations unable to leave each other exclusively due to said dependence. This can be extremely damaging.

7 Things You Should Look Out For

Below are seven signs that could point to the possibility of you being in a co-dependent relationship or part of a codependent interaction. The following signs are indicators that you might need to give your relationship a closer look incase what you’re in is a codependent interaction.

Merging

This is when you lose sight of where you and your space ends and your partner’s begins or vice versa. A lack of separate interests and activities might be one thing that points to this.

Validation

Of course we all need our partners and loved ones to validate us from time to time. That being said, if there is an inability to self validate without the support and approval of one’s partner more often than not, you’ve got a problem!

Fear of Abandonment

Again, this one to a degree is quite acceptable. On the flip side if it comes to a point where you’re always afraid your partner is going to bail and worry about what you will do, it could be a sign of you being codependent!

Inability to be Alone

Being alone and spending time by yourself is extremely healthy. If you like spending time with your partner that is also quite alright! If you are unable to exist and do your own thing however more often than not and need your partner with you, codependence it may be!

Blind Loyalty

This one is important. If you find yourself in a situation where you’re taking a lot of abuse and unfair treatment but cannot fathom being anything but loyal, you might want to look into the nuances of the relationship!

Ditching Your Stuff

There are things we all love to do by ourselves. These could be hobbies, health routines or even Saturday evening bingo. If you are in a codependent arrangement, the likelihood is that you will give up more of what you love doing to accommodate the other and/or vice versa. Again, being accommodating is good. Constantly sitting on your needs for someone else suggests codependence.

Fixing

Feeling like you constantly need to fix, nurture and heal a partner could point to codependence. Though we all need support and help, there are times where we need to do things by ourselves. If you can’t offer a partner the space to process on their own, best look into it!

Conclusion   

Among the many ways you could address your codependence, hypnosis is an extremely effective method!

For those of you looking to work with your codependence through hypnosis, we might be able to help. Our hypnotist Rekha has a Masters in psychological development among other qualifications and is extensively qualified and experienced in the field of hypnosis. She works effectively with anxiety, depression, rage and even helps clients with smoking cessation and weight loss through hypnosis. If you need support, reach out! We’d be happy to be of service!